Body Talk: a dad's perspective

What's it like to love someone struggling with their mum-body? In our first ever post from a DAD, the lovely Andy Harris from There is Always Time for Biscuits shares his experience. Our 22nd Love Mum Body post.

I was inspired to write this post after reading all the ‘Love-Mum Body’ posts on the excellent ‘Story of Mum’. It’s great to see this network of mums getting together to spread a little love and remind us how beautiful the women in our lives are. Some of the blog posts felt very close to home and it got me thinking about how we could use some ‘Dad Power’ to change the minds of a few mums who are feeling less than happy with their post-baby bodies. I know where I want to start.

When I first met my lovely wife she was 23, feisty, exciting and super-slinky hot. I was gloomily turning 30, convinced I had wasted most of my twenties and that it was all downhill from there. She was not the sort of woman I thought would ever find me attractive but I got lucky. I was punching above my weight then and I still am now. She is gorgeous.

beautiful wife and childFast forward to today and it is a little over three months since she gave birth to our beautiful son. Recovering from a c-section, infection and the rigours of pregnancy, her body has taken a battering and the recovery from this is still on-going.

Despite this she is still gorgeous and my passion for her is undiminished. There is no caveat here. There is no ‘not bad considering’ or ‘looking good for a’ statements here. She is just gorgeous.

I’m sure you have guessed the inevitable problem already – she can’t see any of this. Her body-confidence is very low and my efforts to raise this don’t seem to have much effect. I tell her how amazing she is on a regular basis but sadly the mirror and scales shout louder. So I am turning to you, the people of the internet to help me spread a little love and maybe raise the morale of not just my wife but all of those beautiful women who gave us our fantastic sons and daughters.

Dads, what have you done to help the mother of your child love her body? Tell us all why she is wonderful !

Mums, what has made a difference to you? What helped you love your post-baby body?

 

To connect with other mamas facing the struggles of motherhood, and trying to love our bodies more, come and join our private facebook group: Mamas' Everyday Retreat

Mamas' Everyday Retreat is a safe kind space for mamas to connect and support each other. Expect me-time encouragement, compassionate conversation, gentle motivation, and surprise treats. We hope to see you there...

 

About Love Mum-Body

On story of mum, we’re sharing photos of how our bodies have changed since we became mums and grandmums. You can photograph your actual body, or you can shape your body in plasticine. We don’t mind how you share it, as long as you do your very best to love it.

For some more inspiration, check out the guest posts we’ve had so far:

My Body Is... Pippa Best @storyofmum

My Mom-Body in Poetry: Sonya Cisco @sonyacisco

Honouring all our Mama-Bodies: Lyndsay Kirkham @hisveganmama

I Earned My Stripes: Becky Gower @mummyadventure

Post-Baby Perfect? Adele Jarrett-Kerr @AdeleJK

Worrying about Nipples: Tattooed Mummy @Tattooed_Mummy

When you can't love your Mum-Body: Emma @TheRealSupermum

Love it. Period: Lisa Hassan Scott @lisahassanscott

Baring my truth: my mummy tummy: Ericka Waller @ErickaWaller1

You show me yours...: Chelsea Williams @MsMummyofTwo

What's not to love?: Kate Ladd @MakeshiftMummy

Trying!: Helen Tiplady @helentiplady

Battling My Body: Kirsty Curran @raspberryswirls

Trying to be proud of my Mum-Body: Catherine Jennings @BELLA_and_WILL

I've never much liked my body: Kate Holmes-Davis @kateonthinice

Dear Body Image@LadyCurd

Before, and After: Jeni @Joyandwoe

My Mum Body...: Kat Pearce @katpearce

Reminders of my Motherhood journey: Hannah Brooker @cupcakemumma11

Love my babies, hate my veins: Sian Lennon @sianytweet

4 simple ways to love your mum body: Lucy Thornton @thorntonlucy